I’m fairly certain that Jack identifies himself as a male, but he never thinks twice about accompanying me into the Ladies’ Room. And, even if the visit is for me, he joins me in the stall because I cannot trust his decision making if left alone, even for a second. It’s not easy, but it’s our reality.

Over the years, there have been times that I’ve been questioned by strangers, even scolded. Just a few weeks ago, I got a tap on my shoulder followed by a, “He looks FAR too old to need to be with his mother.”

Although I was tempted to mention that she looked rather old and cranky, I took a breath and simply explained that my son was “special” and couldn’t safely be left on his own. Then I locked my teenage son and myself into a small stall so that I could poop.

Not sure why there is so much concern over where people do their business, but I want to share that our family has been making our own toilet rules for a long time and we think people should get over their fears. If anyone ever refused to let Jack and I use the bathroom of our choice, I would have a simple solution, and it would require a lot of bleach to clean up.

Love, Jess

We do support a law banning guns from all bathrooms.