Lately I’ve been distracted. Distracted by the lousy weather outside the window. The cold. The grey sky. The snow piling up… Distracted by the inane MTG politico drama playing out on TV every day and night… Distracted by work stuff ( I just started a new job this week). Work can sometimes be a positive and useful distraction – especially when living through the first 12 months of a pandemic (Yes, we are now in our 12th month…). But at the end of the day, it is still a DISTRACTION.
Sometimes the only part of the day when things come into focus, when my mind clears, when I shed all the distractions is when I get a giant hug from Jack. It’s the best part of my day – every day.
Even if you haven’t spent a lot of time with Jack, you know that he is non-verbal. But you probably can’t fully understand how he communicates most directly and most effectively. It’s when he gives you a hug. He is extremely strong. He will literally squeeze the breath right out of your chest. It’s the best feeling in the world. It’s when I regain all perspective — as I squeeze back!
Today is Day 5000 in the Torrey house. It’s been 5000 days since Jack received his stem-cell transplant in May 2007. Since the doctors at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital saved my son’s life. 5000 days of a wonderful life. 5000 days of smiles and belly laughs and hugs and dancing to 70’s tunes. 5000 days of watching him and his baby sister grow up to be adults. 5000 days of “our normal life” with Jack.
Think about what has happened in your life over the last 5000 days. It’s hard to grasp all the changes, the good and the bad, the ups and downs, the mundane and the thrilling, Hell, some days I can barely remember life before COVID. But Jack and his hugs help me remember what is really important in life. Not the distractions. That’s nothing but a lot of noise.
Thank you Jack for being in my life.