When I first meet with a client, I always share that creating a healthy life – not a life of rainbows and sunshine, but a life where we struggle less – is creating a life where we have meaning, purpose and connection.

Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and renowned psychiatrist, said, “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” I add connection to the list because without connection we’re simply floating solo on this journey.

Meaning is the why behind what we do. It’s the lens through which we view our existence. It represents our priorities and values. Purpose is the how we honor our meaning – it’s the what we do. Purpose gives life structure and motivation, keeping us moving in a positive direction towards our meaning — even during difficult times. Connection is the DUCT TAPE that holds us together. It’s the relationships we build, the communities we nurture, and the experiences that bring us closer to others. Connection allows us to collaborate, support, and celebrate alongside others, reinforcing our sense of belonging. And, our connections often help us to find our meaning and work towards our purpose.

These are some questions to get started:

• What experiences in your life have you found fulfilling?
• Which activities or causes make you feel like you are contributing to something bigger than yourself?
• What are your strengths and passions that can help others or contribute positively to the world?
• When do you reach out to friends and loved ones, not just when you need something, but simply to connect?
• What are the communities or groups that share your interests and values?

I just returned from this year’s ALD Connect Annual Meeting and Patient Learning Academy. All weekend I thought about meaning and purpose and connection. I thought about how meaning, purpose and connection have allowed me to survive – even thrive – following the diagnosis.

When you’re facing a complicated diagnosis like ALD, many find themselves caught up with concerns about their health and their future. It’s easy to get lost in a pile of what ifs and the cycle of daily routines, often leaving little time to reflect on what truly matters. We chase test results and tick off checklists, but without understanding what drives us, we risk feeling unfulfilled. Meaning, purpose and connection allow us new insights about what is truly important, gives us direction and motivation and provides us emotional support. It helps us take some power back and pay it forward.

17 ½ years ago ALD shattered our family. It took years to adjust to our new circumstances and appreciate the need for taking control of what we could. We couldn’t change our genes, but we could find meaning. We could move forward towards our purpose, and we could add to our connections. 

I’ve said many times that ALD is a crappy/shitty/terrible disease, but the people are amazing. I want to thank the ALD community for allowing our family to find meaning and purpose and connection. I want to thank the ALD community for helping us struggle less.

Love, Jess